🤦🏾♀️😩 I was married to a Bob.
To this day people are still surprised that he was a cheater. We made a good team in life. He spent hours volunteering and taking care of our family. But at the end of the day there was always a woman coming out of the shadows. Even after literally begging him to stop, he never did.
He came from a long line of family cheating and it was accepted and talked about like a badge of honor.
So to him, this is how relationships where. And I new this going in and thought all of my goodness and what we where building was enough to change that. But it wasn’t. He is now single and a lot happier for sure. As he can date and sleep with whoever he wants. I’m finally in an honest monogamous relationship with no cheating. It feels safe for once.
What I’ve learned from my life and this piece of writing is that people are who they are and they rarely change for others. So if he’s a cheater at the start he will be the same at the end. Save yourself the time and leave if it doesn’t work for you. You can only change you!